Originals

= MEN AND WOMEN =

**// From the primitive ones to today’s modern individuals, in every part of the human’s history, the differences between men and women has been a subject of a gorgeous debate among the society. Whoever we are, whatever job we have, whereever we live, in our lifetimes we must have thought these differences at least one time. Simply, men and women have a great difference in terms of sexuality. İt is the most clear example of their difference. They also have many differences in every aspect such as in relationship, maturity, biological, habitual behaviour patterns and so on. Men and women who have been living together since the beginning of the world create a harmony that consisting of their extraordinary differences. //**   **// Firstly, men and women have many fundamental difference biologically. Their brains are not only different, but also the way they use their brains is different. The brain of men is seperated into many hemisphere related to many different things, like abstract reasoning and visual intelligence while in the women’s brain, there are large connections and interaction between left and right hemispheres. These seperationof hemispheres in the brain affect men and women in many aspect. Also life conditions can surely affect men and women’s behavior patterns. For example, then a relationship ends, a woman crys too much and pours her heart out to her girlfriends.Then she gets on with her life trying to sound cheerful. This situation is a bit different for a men. He has a little more trouble letting go. He says that ‘’You ruined my life! I will never forgive you.’’ but, at the same time he says ‘’I love you so much, and there is a chance for us to begin from the very beginning.’’ As a consequence, we can see that their understandings of life are very different to each other. //**   **// Finally, we can see these differences in every part of the day just by looking carefully at each other. We can say that men and women are inseparable part of the life although they have many awesome differences in many aspects. //**

Can men and women just be friends? I think the answer is obviously no. Of course, there are exceptions like homosexuals, but generally speaking it is unlikely. To be friends, a man and a woman would need to share real love and care for each other without any feelings of attraction. Love and care are two main factors of a relationship. The third but the most important one is attraction. For men, attraction manifests itself in the desire for sex. Because men’s desire for sex is quite strong, it’s possible for a man to feel attracted to a number of women simultaneously. Moreover, men love and care women for whom they feel a lot of attraction. For women, attraction is something that happens over time. It happens much faster when women already have strong feelings of love and care for someone, but attraction is not enough for a woman. In a situation where a man and a woman are friends, the woman becomes more and more attracted to the man because of her feelings of love and care towards that man. The more her feelings of attraction grow, the more she feels special feelings apart from the friendship for her friend. At the same time, the man is already feeling a strong desire for sex. The stronger desire he feels for sex, the more attraction he feels for his friend. It seems likely that the friendship line will be crossed. As long as one of the people has feelings for the other, then I think it's probably not a true friendship, anyway. It’s interesting that we don’t have any other words for describing the opposite sex excluding your wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend, so you have to call them as friends. media type="youtube" key="T_lh5fR4DMA" height="439" width="588" align="center"

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Men are like vows,

'cause they're easily broken

Women are like cows,

'cause they both have vaginas.

Men are like muzzles,

'cause they'll try to shut you up.

Women are like puzzles

because prior to 1920, neither had the right to vote.

Puzzles still don't.

A man is an eagle, yeah, a woman is a dove.

Women can fake orgasms, but men can fake love.

Men and women.

Women are like fingers and toes,

'cause they're easy to count on.

Men are like ravens and crows,

'cause they hate using condoms.

Women are like Yahtzees,

'cause I rarely get them.

Men are like Nazis,

'cause they both cause the holocaust.

It's true.

For every dollar that a man makes,

A woman makes 70 cents.

That doesn't makes sense, that's not fair.

The man's only left with 30.

Men and women.

Men and women,

it's black and white

with an area of gray for hermaphrodite.

Male strippers always look like they're applying lotion

and female strippers, when their dancing on the pole, just look like,

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 * // When will we get the time to be just friends //**


 * // It's never safe for us not even in the evening //**


 * // 'cos I've been drinking //**


 * // Not in the morning where your shit works //**


 * // It's always dangerous when everybody's sleeping //**


 * // And I've been thinking //**


 * // Can we be alone? //**


 * // Can we be alone? //**


 * // When will we get the time to be just friends //**


 * // When will we get the time to be just friends //**


 * // And no I'm not ashamed but the guilt will kill you //**


 * // If she don't first //**


 * // I'll never love you like her //**


 * // Though we need to find the time //**


 * // To just do this shit together //**


 * // For it gets worse //**


 * // I wanna touch you //**


 * // But that just hurts //**


 * // When will we get the time to be just just friends //**


 * // When will we get the time to be just friends, just friends //**


 * // When will we get the time to be just friends, just friends //**


 * // When will we get the time to be just friends, just friends //**


 * // Just friends //**


 * Discussion Questions **
 * Can men and women be just friends? Why? Why not? **
 * What are the common differences between men and women? **
 * In which particular areas can we see gender differences? **


 * // Commentaries for the discussion questions ? //**


 * MY COMMENT ON YOUR WIKI SUBJECT**

I liked your subject very much because the differencies between men and women are controversial.But you could have written this subject more detailed.You say ‘’There are many differencies but you don’t explain those differencies clearly.

In the text, you mentioned about the psychological situations the women amd men are in after leaving.According to you a woman cries,shares her feelings with her friends, then goes on with her life but a man is angry with the woman and at the same time loves her.I don’t agree with you.I think, it is easy for a man to forget about his past relationships.If he leaves one, he finds another one.( at least he thinks so) Therefore I don’t think men think of a chance to start again.

Moreover you wrote very well why men and women cannot be just friends.In my opinion, the reasons you put forward are totally true.

I loved the song you shared with us.Actually,it is about exactly what you are trying to tell.

my answer to your first question
1) I don’t think men and women can be just friends.Even if a woman means to be a friend or treats him like a friend, man cannot think in a friendly way towards the woman next to him.Okey, there are many men and women who say that they are just friends but if you look at them, you can see that they will fall in love each other as time passes. Look at the lovers around you.I’m sure that they were best friends in the past and then realized that they loved each other.

When the men decide to leave the women, they say ‘’Let’s maintain our relationship as friends…’’ How could they think that they will be successful in being just friends with their old girlfriends.I think is impossible to treat your lover as a friend especially after leaving her/him because it is likely that you will love her/him again…

my answer to your second question
I think, the main difference between men and women is the sense of the relationships.Women are always serious while dating with men.Every one of them wants to be married and have children.However men aren’t so serious.They think, the later they get married the better they are.So they date with almost every girl they meet…

Another difference is controlling the emotions.Generally women are bad at hiding their emotions.If they are sad, you can see them crying in front of everybody.However, men have an ability to control their feelings.They don’t seem to be sad even if they are.

PINAR ŞAHİN
** Aybüke's comment : 1) ** I think it is better for men and women to be just a friends because in this way they cannot hurt each other easily. However, they generally begin dating after becoming a friend. I think this is because of our nature. After a while, we begin to feel as if that person is very special for us. Therefore, I think there is no probability for a man a woman to stay as a friend. However, there can be exceptions, for example, I have seveal male friends who are very close to me. :) 1)I think that women can be friends with men but it is not same for men because they generally cannot see women just as friends. Of course, there may be some exceptions but I think men are responsible for men's and women's unability to become friends. We can say that men are generally the reason for destroying the relationship between their women friends because their perspective about their friends can easily change.

2) It is undeniable that there are some differences between men and women. The most clear one is difference between their strength and I think men are generally using this difference as a tool to manipulate women. This is one of the reason why women submit men and I think it is very upsetting. The other difference is that women and men have really different view points about almost every matter. I have to admit that men are mostly more rational because women are emotional creatures and this makes their decisions more difficult.

3) Especially we can see the difference in job opportunities. Men have much more opportunities than women because owners think that men have less reason to prevent their jobs and this is the reason why they generally choose men to hire. I think this is unfair but there is nothing can be done because it is true that women have many obstacles like marriage, family, pregnancy etc. Maybe they are acceptable reasons only for our culture but this is what I see around me. The other area that men's and women's differences are effective is family. Men are the dominant member of the family but I think this is not because of men's capability of carrying out family, but because of the custom that have continued for a long time.

** BUSE ŞEN **